You are clearly a tolerant person, who is thoughtful about the needs of other people.
So says a quiz on the Guardian web site. So it must be right — uch to the dismay of those who know me. The quiz was called are you as nice as you think you are, so that would make me nice, wouldn’t it.
Well no. I cheated. I answered how I wished to react to the questions. Not the way I would have probably acted. My answers were how I wished people would have reacted to me in the same situation.
You see the Guardian cheated too. I noticed the cheat with this question, though I already had my suspicions
You’ve just arrived at work and get chatting to a colleague in reception. He starts talking to you for ages about Formula One. You have absolutely no interest in it, but they are showing no signs of stopping! You’re getting bored, what do you do?
That’s me, the talkative one who does not know how to shut up. It confirmed my suspicions, which the Guardian admit on the results page, that all the questions are about autistic behaviour. As someone on the Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD) this is how I would like to be treated, or at least tolerated.
Go on, take the test: Guardian Test
The second linked part of this blog concerns a book I am reading, The Dark Side Of The Soul by Stephen Cherry.
Subtitled An insider’s Guide to the Web of Sin, There is a section on talkativeness at the end of the third chapter, Naughty but Nice1
Cherry quotes at length from 18th century bishop Joseph Butler’s book On the Government of the Tongue. Butler says that the problem with talkativeness is not that we go out of our way to cause trouble or defame others, but that the habit of talkativeness leads us in the direction of doing so unwittingly. And that the tongue used in this way is like a sword in the hand of a madman.
I am worried here. Much of what Butler and Cherry say here sounds like autistic behaviour. I talk too much because not picking up the facial expressions and body language that say that people are bored, uninterested, or want to say something I tend to go on too much. I am aware that my behaviour sometimes is out of step with that needed for good relationships with people, but there is a difference between sin and my Asperger’s Syndrome, or other forms of autism. ASD people are likely to feel threatened if counselled in this way.
I do not have Cherry’s learning, he is the Dean of King’s College, Cambridge and Director of Studies in Theology, neither have I any knowledge of psychology or psychotherapy except as a patient, but my experience as a Christian aspie make me think that a bit of rewriting to take in ASD people is needed here.
I am not trying to be negative, I can recommend people read Stephen Cherry’s blog. stephencherry.wordpress.com
1 I an unable to cite page number as I am using an e-reader. The section in question is Location 891 at 21% in Kindle.